“When Covert Narcissism and Soul Contracts Collide”
Unmasking Covert Narcissism in Spiritually Charged Relationships
By The Awakened Jenn
I’ve seen it in my own story. And I’ve seen it in countless others too.
Covert narcissism hiding inside a connection that also felt spiritual… sacred… destined.
When it’s a twin flame—or any high level soul connection—it becomes so much harder to name the abuse. The pull is stronger. The excuses last longer. And the damage runs deeper.
But the truth is: abuse is abuse, no matter what label you give the connection.
Whether it’s karmic, twin flame, or soulmate, we have to start recognizing when we’re being harmed, and stop mistaking trauma bonds for destiny.
This is what covert narcissism looks like.
And we need to talk about it.
What Is Covert Narcissism, Really?
Covert narcissism doesn’t always look how you expect. It’s not always flashy or grandiose, but it’s not always quiet either.
What makes it covert is the disguise. It’s typically hidden behind closed doors.
The covert narcissist hides behind a carefully crafted public image: maybe it’s spiritual, maybe it’s wounded, maybe it’s the “nice guy.” They often play the victim. They may even speak the language of healing, growth, or spiritual authority… all while avoiding accountability, manipulating emotions, and distorting reality behind closed doors.
They don’t need to be the greatest person in the room. They just need to look like the one who’s being wronged.
That’s the trap: they hurt you, then convince you—and everyone else—that you’re the problem.
And that’s what makes it so dangerous.
They will:
• Withhold affection when you’re in pain
• Subtly shame you for having emotions and needs that inconvenience them
• Twist spiritual and/or therapy language into gaslighting (“you’re too low-vibe,” “you’re projecting”)
• Treat strangers better than they treat you
• Collapse into victimhood when asked to take accountability
• Blame you for the harm they caused… and make you believe it
It’s the kind of abuse that leaves no bruises but destroys your center. And if you’re highly empathic or spiritually tuned in, it’s even harder to escape because your nervous system keeps looking for the soul you once saw in them.
Trauma Bond + Spiritual Bond = A Perfect Storm
Covert narcissists create trauma bonds.
Spiritual counterparts—especially twin flames or high-level karmics—often create soul bonds.
And when both happen in the same person?
That’s when it becomes the most psychologically and energetically entangling thing you will ever experience.
You’ll justify the pain because of the signs.
You’ll see the good in them and override your body’s warnings. You’ll feel it’s your mission to hold space for their healing, even while they deny your own.
You’ll convince yourself it’s shadow work when it’s actually emotional starvation.
This is how you start losing yourself—piece by piece, layer by layer—while still calling it “destined” love.
When It’s a Twin Flame, Karmic, or Soul Contract Connection
Here’s the part that most people won’t say out loud:
Yes, this person may be your twin flame.
Yes, this may be a sacred contract.
And still:
They can show up in deep shadow, unchecked ego, and narcissistic distortion.
In fact, if you are a woman with a significant divine feminine mission, your mirror is often someone who holds a proportionally massive amount of unresolved masculine wounding. That’s part of the balancing dynamic—light and shadow meeting.
But the deeper someone is into that shadow, the harder it is for them to come out.
And your job is not to wait around for them to wake up.
Your job is to protect your light.
Your job is to remember who YOU are.
Soul contract or not—abuse is still abuse, and it is not meant to be tolerated.
How to Know It’s Time to Step Away
If you’re unsure whether you’re in a relationship with a covert narcissist, ask yourself:
• Do you feel like you’re constantly over-explaining yourself?
• Do they flip the script when you try to talk about your pain?
• Are you the one doing all the emotional labor?
• Are you confused most of the time but keep overriding your gut because of “the connection”?
• Do you feel more unworthy, unstable, or unseen than ever before with this person?
The lesson is clear…
That’s not ascension.
That’s not growth.
That’s emotional abuse wrapped in spiritual fantasy.
You Can Leave—and Still Honor the Connection
Walking away from someone you loved, especially someone who feels spiritually significant, does not mean you’re dishonoring the connection.
It means you’re finally honoring yourself.
You can hold space for the soul contract. You can acknowledge the activation. You can even thank the mirror for what it showed you.
But what you cannot do is let the idea of who they were supposed to be keep you trapped in the pain of who they actually are.
You don’t have to keep bleeding for the sake of spiritual growth.
You don’t have to call it love when it’s control.
You don’t have to make yourself small so someone else can avoid their shadow.
Final Word
You are not failing the mission by leaving a narcissist… you’re completing it.
You’re breaking the pattern.
You’re refusing to let abuse hide behind love.
You’re choosing to remember that your light is not meant to be dimmed to make someone else comfortable in their darkness.
Even if they were your twin flame.
Even if the signs all said yes.
Even if the bond felt unbreakable.
It was still abuse.
And you still get to walk away.
In fact, when abuse is actively present—you MUST walk away.
If This Hit Home… You’re Not Alone
If you recognized yourself in this story—if you’re questioning, unraveling, or just beginning to wake up from the fog—I want you to know: there’s nothing wrong with you.
You’re not broken for loving them.
You’re not weak for staying too long.
You’re not crazy for still feeling the pull.
But you are allowed to choose yourself now.
If you need guidance as you sort through the spiritual, emotional, and psychological layers of your connection, I offer private sessions and healing support for women navigating exactly this kind of pain. You don’t have to do it alone, and you don’t have to sacrifice your mission for someone who won’t meet you in theirs.
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